People are late because they don’t want to be early. If you know me, you know I am ALWAYS (Ok, maybe like 94% of the time) EARLY to appointments, meetings, events, dinners, dates, everything. Adamant about punctuality, the world-renowned pacifist was never without it.  Usually, a small amount of lateness is acceptable; this is commonly about ten or fifteen minutes in Western cultures, but this is not the case in such instances as doctor's appointments or school lessons. Why Attention is the Currency of Achievement, How to Realize Your Full Potential the Agile Way, Don’t Let the Summer Slowdown Stop Your Job Search — Start Being Aggressive, Banchiwosen Woldeyesus: Blogger from Ethiopia. So a few questions for habitually-late people: Do you chronically under-judge how long a series of events will take, just as I over-judge? They could have done laundry, or checked email, or played video games, but they did not – because they chose to meet with you instead. If so, you're a bad planner, and need to work on that. Such considerations can lead on to considering the value of punctuality in econometrics and to considering the effects of non-punctuality on others in queueing theory. While each type of person can theoretically live their life in a healthy way, being disorganised and frequently late can cause more undue stress, pressure, as well as relationship and work issues than those who are more organised with their time. For the geometrical adjective, see, "Timeliness" redirects here. “Most work settings are organised, being disorganised, which includes tardiness, isn’t compatible. They'll try to fit ten activities into an hour and then are shocked when they're an hour late to dinner and discover me two drinks in, steaming. RELATED: 21 Struggles Only Chronically Late People Understand. Gandhi lived his life according to a strict timetable. You can stop being tardy today by making a conscious decision to stay on schedule. “Being late is one of the biggest causes of stress between couples,” she says.  In some cultures, such as Japanese society, and settings, such as military ones, expectations may be much stricter. One simple thing my wife and I do to help make life easier. In my example above, despite still no personal apology, I did end … With a friend, you are allowing shared time for talking and listening, perhaps even problem sharing. There might have been a car alarm, barking dogs, or fighting cats that kept them up the night before and they’re running on fumes and are late today as a result. Jeff Conte, an associate psychology professor at San Diego State University, found that multitaskers tend to perceive time more slowly. According to Levine, those who live by event time allow events to dictate the rhythm of their days. You can follow her on Instagram: @shonamarion. It could be laundry, sleep, doing your hair, playing a video game, checking your email – anything. Ultimately, I'd rather myself wait than expect someone else to do so. I wonder if the people who are chronically late and inconsiderate of other people's time realize the reputation they're creating for themselves. With that in mind, it’s important for managers to accommodate different scheduling approaches, while offering support to the chronically tardy among us. Later, her Instagram revealed she was out museum-hopping. But it turns out that this behaviour is not just subject to my OTT judgement, it can actually be negative to your health and wellbeing. Do you get an adrenaline rush from doing everything at the last minute? Why would someone want to be involved with you, personally or otherwise, under those circumstances? “After planning numerous events and spending many hours waiting and waiting at the gate, I finally realized that time, schedules, and punctuality have no leash on Iraqi culture,” she explained in a story for the New York Times. Remember everyone’s time is important, not just yours. Why are so many of us still late? Sign up to our bodyandsoul.com.au newsletter to read more stories like this. Scale back your to-do list of it is too long, you may be trying to do too much meaning you can’t fit it in. Your friends, coworkers, family members, and many others will be grateful. But, what does their time mean to you? When we are chronically late, it shows that the clearly-defined appointment or the people are not prioritized in our own life. Reply. Small mistakes are great if they prevent you from making a much bigger mistake. And I encourage our employees to automate as much as possible — weekly emails, meeting alerts, reports — to minimize the possibility of missing a deadline. Are you always late...? For a job interview, a single instance of being late may be a dealbreaker, since you might not get hired otherwise. People usually recognize this habit early in a relationship and will come to expect the constant late arrival, maybe even telling the tardy friend that a party starts ½ hour before it really does, or telling the person to meet them for coffee 15 minutes before they intend to arrive themselves. When we understand why we’re always late, we can improve our own punctuality. If so, you may have a chronic tardiness problem. Subscribe my Newsletter for new blog posts, tips & new photos. If one of your colleagues continues to show up late, try explaining the consequences, not in terms of minutes or hours, but rather, in terms of the impact on others.